Lowering your Victim profile – become the “Grey Person”!


In a August 1996 Guns & Ammo article written by Jim Grover a.k.a Kelly McCann, the following points were outlined to help you lower your victim profile.

  • Dress to blend whenever possible
  • Watch the overt display of affluence
  • Walk with another whenever possible
  • Move away quickly from sudden impediments to your movement
  • Keep away from walls (i.e., stay out of arm’s reach) when turning corners while walking
  • Use physical barriers whenever possible
  • Develop contingencies
  • Don’t let embarrassment or pride deter you from using good security precautions
  • LOOK for trouble
  • Always carry a less-than-lethal weapon
  • Don’t second-guess yourself if you truly believe, This is it!!!!

I believe the image you want to project is the one (the grey person) that the average person will forget the second he takes his eyes off of you, however, you also want to project one that the bad-guy “DO” notice and know you are not to be messed with.  You can do this by projecting a positive, aware and alert image! Everyone agrees that the criminal is looking for the easy target.  Don’t be that target! Just be careful not to be the one identified as the Guy or Gal with the gun.

How do you become the individual that is aware, alert, and is not a soft target? You do this by training and actually being capable of putting up a fight, by looking alive when you have to, yet not look like a human radar when the situation doesn’t require it. No need to be paranoid, but be ALERT!  Think in terms of Colonel Jeff Cooper’s condition yellow;

CONDITION YELLOW-   This is a relaxed state of general alertness, with no specific focal point. You are not looking for anything or anyone in particular; you simply have your head up and your eyes open.  You are alert and aware of your surroundings.  You do not expect to be attacked today but you recognize the possibility.

Anything or anyone in your immediate vicinity that is unusual, out of place, or out of context, should be viewed as potentially dangerous, until you have had a chance to assess it. When your mental radar picks up on a blip, you should immediately be prepared escalate up to the next level.

Here is one additional suggestion, watch what you wear.  Consider dull colors, current fashion and be careful about wearing the latest 5.11 fashions, tactical rigger belts and vests.  I am not suggesting that you never wear these types of clothing, I do.  My suggestion is to blend them with other civilian clothing and try not to look like the latest tactical fashion model or civilian private security contractor.  Take a little time and do a 360-degree evaluation of yourself and see yourself through the eyes of others.  This is obviously the pathway to self-awareness and will certainly enhance your self-protection skills.  The following Scottish poet by Robert Burns praised the importance of the 360-degree evaluation:

Oh that the gods
The gift would gi’e us
To see ourselves
As others see us

Being the Grey Person take a little effort but is extremely important in the world today.  The 3 Cs, criminals, crazies and crusaders are looking for the easy target, don’t be that target.  Remember the motto, “Train Today for Tomorrow’s Battles!”

Try this next time you want to learn something!


Here are some short cuts to learning a new skill or if you are an instructor, consider trying a new teaching methodology;

General Skill Acquisition:

  1. Find a good reason to learn.  You need an ignition source!  Spark your motivation.
  2. Observing the expert: deep observation.  Suggestion: watch a video of an expert in the area of study you are attempting to learn before going to bed at night.  Test the skill in the morning.
  3. Engraving/Modeling the skill: Acting “as if” we have the skill for 15 minutes per day.  A kinesthetic activity.
  4. Steal from the best: take bits and pieces, ideas—the good information that serves you–and make it your own.
  5. Training Journal: for recording progress.  TEST, TEST & more TEST!  Record the results.
  6. Practice in an environment that offers the least luxuries and distractions. The more Spartan, the better.
  7. Precision in early practice develops the initial neural pathways correctly.  Fundamentals are critical.  Focus on fundamentals and instructions regarding these basics should be clear and to the point.

Read the Talent Code and the Little Red Book of Talent by Daniel Coyle for more information.

Here is a great blog on Sparking Motivation!  http://thetalentcode.com/2013/10/10/how-to-spark-motivation-step-1-shut-your-mouth/

Here is a thought! Educate yourself on Use of Force.


There are many Self Protection instructors, coaches and practitioners in the world.  I appreciate all the hard work and efforts that each of them put forth. Most are hard-working and dedicated individuals.

My only problem is that some do not teach their students when they can actually use force, deadly or non-lethal.  They teach them how to fight, but never talk about when they can actually use force.  When you walk into the Combat Hard Training Center, we give you a copy of the Georgia Law on use of deadly force and we educate you on the law to the best of our abilities.  Why?  Because in my opinion, knowing the law is just as important as knowing how to fight.

Yes, I know that each state has different laws as it relates to use of deadly force, so why are some teachers not teaching the basics. That is a great question.  They should.  They do not need to be a lawyer, they just need to be educated.  If you are an instructor or student, get educated!  It is extremely important in my opinion.  We train to “Win”!  So let’s win  on all three levels, physically, mentally and legally.

Recently, I received an excellent DVD from the Armed Citizens Legal Defense Network.  The DVD is titled Legal Considerations of the Use of Force of Non-lethal Defensive Force.  What an excellent DVD on Use of Force.  If you are not familiar with the ACLDN, you need to be.  Please visit the website a http://armedcitizensnetwork.org/.  I highly recommend that you join this association, get the DVDs and get educated.  Although, they generally focus on legal issues involving the Armed Citizens, they have excellent information on unarmed encounters.

So I have a homework assignment for you.  Next time you attend, a self-defense seminar or martial arts class, ask about Use of Deadly Force and the legal system.  If your instructor does not know anything about it, then it is time for you to get some additional education from someone else.  Instructors, Coaches and Teachers, if you are teaching Self Protection Skills, then you should get educated on the legal system.

Be safe and train, train and train!